“Education makes a people easy to lead, but difficult to drive, easy to
govern but impossible to enslave.” Henry
Peter Brougham (19 Sept 1778-7
May 1868 )
“There is no
single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a
transformation of the way we raise our children” -
Marianne Williamson-
Bill Havens was
a finalist for the rowing and canoeing event
of the United States
for the 1924 Olympic Games in Paris. He was expected to
win at least a gold medal for America. However, Bill discovered that his wife would be delivering their baby
at the about the time of the Olympic.
The dilemma : should
he go to Paris and
fulfill his dream of a life time
to win a gold medal or two, or stay at
home to be with his wife at Arlington,
Virginia and welcome and embrace the birth of his child?
Night after
night, he spent agonizing
over this decision. Ever since
childhood days, Bill had harbored this life long ambition to be a winner
Doing his
mother land proud, now his dream could become a reality in a matter of
months.
A final decision
however hard was made. He felt it was more important to be near by the side of his wife when the new arrival come
rather than competing in a
sporting event. As it turned out, Frank Havens was born August 1, 1924 four days after the closing ceremonies. This
difficult decision was to haunt him for the next three decades. Did he make a
right decision?
For the next 30 years, Bill had constant dreams of
winning the gold medal,
When he reached out to grab the medal, only to wake up
to realize it was only a dream induced possibly by the missed opportunity to
realize his greatness.
One day in the
year 1952, he received a telegram from Helsinki, Finland
which finally convinced him that he had
made a right decision after all. 30 years ago.
His burden of
being tormented by a possible wrong decision was over.
The telegram read: “ Dear Dad, thanks for waiting
around for me to be born in 1924. I’m coming home with the gold medal you
should have won.”
Your loving son,
Frank.
Frank had won the Olympic gold medal for the 10,000 metre canoeing
Event.
If you were Bill Havens, would you have made the same
decision?
In this world that is so obsessed with achievement,
record breaking feat, it is not easy to make
sacrifice as “ mundane” as the arrival of a new born.
The lesson: The people who make a difference in your
life are not the ones with the most
credentials, the most famous, the most money, or the most awards. They are the
ones that care.
Is there any wisdom for a father to show his presence at the
arrival of a new born? The above
example of the sacrifice of Bill Havens demonstrated the significance it made
to the child self-esteem from birth
until the day of the child’s demise.
Charlie Chaplin once related an incident of what constituted a nightmare.
He was at a show, and he put up a very
outstanding show of his wit and humour,
but instead of applauses and shouts
of cheers, no one clapped and no body reacted to his performance. That is
to him a real nightmare.
Why is there this relentless quest for human being to
be loved and appreciated even from day
one of one’s arrival to this earth?
Because , every baby born and delivered is a miracle
by itself. This routine and mundane
human event, ought to be celebrated and
observed to preserve the self esteem of all human being.
The process of human conception is a race of
unparalleled achievement. Each male in
the 1920s used to have a sperm count of 400 millions per cubic centimeter. But
due to pollution and life’s stress, in
the present time, this has dropped to 250 million sperms on the average. This
means, for a baby to eventually conceived, the male sperm has to be superbly
fit and swims in the womb of the woman to hit the mark of uniting with the
ovum. Other lesser competitors which do not make it, all die and perish in the
hostile, acidic environment of the
vagina. According to scientific
studies which observe the
journey of sperms, for a single
sperm to propel 1 cm forward, the tail of the sperm has to beat 1,000 times to
advance. Being so tiny, the sperm movement over the many cilia in the vagina
represents a feat of climbing the Himalayan mountains and swimming against strong current to reach its goal of meeting
an ovum. Hence, the conception which resulted from the fusion of a sperm and
oyum in the fallopian tube is an
outstanding spectacular achievement for
human race.
This is the reason, why every human baby born is
worthy of love, attention, embraces and endless bonding with the parents from
birth until well into the teenager
years. With these showers of love and affections and touch and skin contacts
the baby will thrive and mature into wholesome useful human being with balanced
personality both of intellectual and emotional intelligence.
In case after case of study by sociologist and
psychologist, babies who are deprived of love, attention, human touch and human
contacts turn out to be criminals,
psychopath and murderers, have a common background of coming
from broken home, parental neglects, abuses and
bad influences from parents who are themselves in trouble with the law
enforcement agencies, bad encounters with drugs, alcohol or themselves victims of parental abuse.
Many of these matured adult in age grow up physically
but emotionally intellectual retarded commit crimes which appear in social
media to make up for the attentions deny
to them while there were a helpless babies and directionless teenagers,
Love and affection are human rights every one deserved and should be given abundantly.
If the children
are properly loved with wisdom and care for by loving parents there will be
less crimes and problem in human
society.
“ It is easier
to build strong children than to repair broken men. “ Frederick Douglas.
“ At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to
a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” Jane D
Hull
“ Education is the most powerful weapon which you can
use to change the world.” Nelson
Mandela
At this point let me share with you, the legacy of
Jonathan Edwards
( 1703-1758) His influence and impact upon the next many generation after
his death. www.ywam-fmi.org July 1,2017 Larry Ballard record of his
legacy. These are Jonathan Edwards
descendants .
A US vice president; 1 dean of law school; 3
US senators; 100 lawyers ;100 pastors;
30 judges ;60 doctors; 60 authors; 80 public servants; 75 military officers; 65
college professors; 13 college presidents, 285
college
graduates
Another
person who came into the same period of history as Jonathan Edwards, Max Jukes
had a totally different descendants compare
to the above achievement of good parenting. Max Jukes was a badly
damaged man and married a harlot. According to Richard L Dugdale 1877 a
sociologist traced back to Max Jukes.
42 prisoners
in New York prison systems; 7 murderers; 60 thieves; 150 convicts; 310 died as
paupers, 440 physically wrecked by addiction to alcohol, 190 prostitutes, 100
drunks and out of 1200 descendants 300 died prematurely.
“ The hands
that rock the cradle, rule the world.” Mothers are destiny makers. Whether, the
child will turn out to be a social asset or a criminal to destroy society, the
end product is in the hands of the parents.
With a new
government in place, it is time to rebuild this beloved nation from a more up
to date set of parenting skills. This has to come from a new discovery about
baby, a new prospective about how to guide and direct parents of this
nation how to maximize the window of
opportunity to teach our nation’s unborn, so that they have a brighter future
and make this nation more advance and
progressive.
Nothing
good ever happen by accident but by
deliberate design and premeditated planning
There are
two books that will change the destiny of this nation for the better and it is up to the parents to
actively participate and engage themselves in this serious and sober and even sacred task of producing a new generation of human being who are both matured and balanced
in every aspect intellectually and emotionally.
- The secret life of the unborn child by Thomas Verny with John Kelly.
- The
inner child of the past by Hugh Missiledine .
The First book,the secret life of unborn child may be
printed locally and also translated into Bahasa Malaysia as I have the author’s
permission to do so. The second book, may be read on line from public domain
site for free. Just Google and follow the link.
Understanding the two
books and applying the insight and wisdom gain from reading them will
make the nation’s parents more sensitive and respectful of the delicate nature of the unborn and newly
born babies for their well-being, both short term and long run.
Let me share another famous and noble character whose
parents’ positive influence and parenting
skills has produced my personal model
hero, Peter Drucker (19th Nov 1909- 11 Nov 2005)
“In the world of management gurus,” McKinsey Quarterly
in 1997, declared, “ there is no doubt,Peter Ducker is the one guru to whom
other gurus kowtow.” The achievement of Peter is unique in the history of
management.
What are the exposures and experiences that shaped and influenced Peter’s mind-set
and attitude that made him what he was? Some incidents indicated the effects of
these encounters throughout his growing up years.
- While
Peter was very young, his socially active parents allowed Peter to stay
around after dinner talk held in his home. His father was an economist and
a lawyer with the governemt,where he got to know intellectual giants,
Federich Hayek,Ludwig Von Mises, Hans Kelson from early age. Sigmund Freud
and Joseph Schumpeter among them.
- In his
forth grade, Peter was enrolled in a co-educational school set up by
Genia, where he learnt to sew and cook.
- Danica
Purg, a rare transformational leader,
the kind of people this world badly needed in difficult times,
asked Peter a philosophical and life changing question, that regulated,
controlled and governed the rest of his life with this question, “ What
would you like to leave behind as legacy, how do you want to be
remembered? “
- Peter Drucker was a prolific genius. He
published in excess of ten thousand pages across hundreds of aticles and
more than thirty books,packed with astute observations and penetrating
insights. Peter Drucker’s impact derives not just from his ideas, but from
his entire approach to ideas, and ultimately his power as a
teacher. Jim Collins foreward in the book ‘ Drucker & Me ‘ by Bob
Buford
- Everything
Peter did-everything he wrote-came from this deep conviction that a fully
functioning society was possible and that we all can play a role in making
our world better and more humane.
Peter Drucker did not play golf in his life time, move
to a bigger house, and owned two Japanese cars. He had no desire to move and
rub shoulders with the rich and famous. He just wanted to be writer and to be remembered as such as his legacy. May we
have more of this legend in other areas of life. Science, business, industry
and in administration, social organization and non-government organisations.
In sharing this with you, in this email, my message to
you is to spread the call to raise the bar for a new
prospective in parenting to produce a new generation of human beings who care
for elevation of human living who care not for status, success, fame and praise from fellow country men, but just be another
Peter Ducker.
I cannot do this all by myself. I need your help. To
catapult this idea to more parents, more families, catapult to more
communities, across race and religions and self imposed boundaries. To sum up
let me borrow Admiral Ed Allen illustration of catapult. He was captain of one
of the US navy’s twelve aircraft carriers. The catapult is what makes the US Navy work. In the ocean, it is virtually
invisible but it gets sixty thousand pounds that is a fuly loaded F14 off the
deck in about 200 feet of runway. I am not the carrier, I am not the plane, I
am not the pilot, I am the catapult that gets the plane airborne.”
I need your support and endorsement in this noble
community project. These are the areas to airborne this idea. To spread it far
and wide.
- To
share with your circle of contacts who cross your life path in the course
of your work.
- To give
me a letter of encouragement to express your trust and belief that this
project will bless and benefit the coming generation to advance further in
building a society which is both progressive in life and work. A society
that embraces intellectual maturity and emotional mellowness.
- To buy
a local edition of “The Secret Life
of the Unborn child” at RM 20 per copy to be given or introduce the
book to those who have a passion
for excellence in their children’s life. You may use a portion of your
assembly man’s allocation from the government for your constituency
‘s community needs. I shall give you an equivalent value of the books
for your distribution.
- Organize talks or seminars for me to speak to
interested parties or social organizations or NGO to disseminate the new
way of raising a new generation for a brighter Malaysia.
- To
request from the Federal government to build community halls or use
existing facilities to train coaches to spear head this new parenting
skills.
- To
coordinate with Mass media such as government television stations or radio broadcasting stations or private sector television
stations and radio channels to cultivate this new way of parenting.
- To form
community clubs in housing estate and resident associations to explore,
inculcate and instill this habit of prebirth and perinatal education for
as many parents as possible within our circle of influence.
- If you
have any additional ideas that can penetrate social circle or existing on
going community projects to incorporate awareness of this project
for a brighter Malaysia, I will be most delighted to hear from you.
- To seek
for financial support from ministry of education or other parallel
government ministries that care for
a more productive and highly skilled work force for the future.
- To seek
and obtain individuals and
organisations that have a passion for excellence in parenting skills up
grade. to be committee members and administrative supporting staff.
How will the public response to such a new idea in
parenting skills improvement ? Some may
like the new bold move to enhance our parenting skill and welcome it with open
minds and hearts. Some may have to consider their own resources before taking
the step to plunge in such a new venture. Some may absorb the new concept in
proportion to their capacity. Some more some less. The idea is to start off
and go along as the people react and
adjust accordingly.
I am encouraged by the Toastmaster international movement. In my quest to show the way for a
brighter future for this country.Toastmaster international is a non-profit
organization started in 1924 in USA by Dr Ralph C Smedley, after 94 years from
its humble beginning in a basement floor of a YMCA, this international moment
to promote and enhance the art of public speaking has a membership of about
352,000 worldwide.in 141 countries and 16,400 clubs globally. There are over
300 clubs in Malaysia.
Those who know teach and coach those who wish to learn
and improve in the art of public speaking.
In spreading and sharing the idea of more progressive
parenting skills, the same philosophy will work equally well. In my quest for a
more highly developed path to realize
the fullness of human potential.
This is a rather lengthy letter, and it will take your
full attention to absorb this content. Reflect and ponder over any point I
raise, which needs further clarification and explanation, I shall do so in
person, when we next meet.
Looking forward to meet up with you, and explore all
the possibilities
“We can
count the number of seeds in an apple, but it is impossible to count the number
of apple in a single seed”
Yours truly,
.
Jordan Tan
0163376517
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